Relationship Chatter

So in an attempt to avoid problems we've had all these long years, I am now making a topic solely for relationship stuff. Now, this does offer a catch, this topic means talking and going on about relationships somewhere else (just mentioning you had a GF or something in some topic doesn't count) but this is your one and final warning. If you wanna talk about relationships, do it here, do it elsewhere, you get 2 days in the cooler if you get my drift

Oh okayz... should of had this when Jtull was around

Nah, then he would be the only one posting here. He would turn it into a one man blog with all the stuff he used to go on about.

Yeah... It would be a one man blog
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Well... Then let me start with it's topic:

Tip to pre-teens in the 14-16 yo house: Never trust your heart to a pre-teen girl... They just don't know how to take care of it...

and if dating a portugese woman, wear facial protection gear at all time from the apparent slapping syndrome that runs rampant in portugal

Yep, they have a flourishing full head helmet industry directly linked to the dating industry.

And what do you mean by pre teen?

Are you saying 14-16 year-olds are pree-teen? Otherwise I'm confused.

EDIT: Aha! I could export cricket helmets to Portugal!

Darkwing wrote:and if dating a portugese woman, wear facial protection gear at all time from the apparent slapping syndrome that runs rampant in portugal

As I already said, it is only in the 16 yo teens that that happen...

But, in contrast with that.... When people here get married, there is actually one of the biggest percentage of domestic Violence (man slapping woman), so there's our revenge!

(Just joking, that is really sick in my opinion)

Oh dear...Thingy, teach your people about 'The Other Way To Do Relationships'

Shemuel wrote:Oh dear...Thingy, teach your people about 'The Other Way To Do Relationships'

What did he said wrong?

Sorry, meant Joao Pedro Borrego

Shemuel wrote:Sorry, meant Joao Pedro Borrego

I try but... It's a very slow process and only this generation can change that... The older one is too conservist... And the newer one is too fragille...

Anyway... It was the easiest "No" I ever had to deal... I was kinda ready for that...

Ah well... Better times and woman will come

And as a large coincedence, better helmets for 16 year old boys will come around that time too.
I think I'm going to stay out of this thread though. Don't really want to recount my relationships.

'Helmets'?

yeah, Ed had access to guns. This story couldn't end well

Earthdeath wrote:And as a large coincedence, better helmets for 16 year old boys will come around that time too.
I think I'm going to stay out of this thread though. Don't really want to recount my relationships.

I was refering more like "If this said 'No', screw her... Better woman will come in the future..."

Better do, that way...

And thats why I'm not recounting anything.

Earthdeath wrote:And thats why I'm not recounting anything.

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So, you shot your previous Ex's? Nice move! That's for they to learn never say no!

I wouldn't do that, personally...

@ JP

Yes, 16 year olds are terrible with relationships. I know, because I was one.

Everything is shallow and honky-dory. Sure, some are better than others. Still, you know what I mean.

Just pure immaturity.

Actually, I believe that relationships are being cheapened through time.

Now a days, a girlfriend is often perceived as someone you just get down into the sac with a few times, and then move on to the next girl you find.

I hardly even want to call that a relationship. It's not really one at all. It's just a physical connection, nothing more. Lust, instead of love.

I often loathe the people that have these kinds of connections, and call their short term sex machine their "girlfriend".

Why not just call her your transient **** buddy?

"Hi, my name is Mike, and this is my transient **** buddy, Sarah."

Wouldn't it be nice to see how fast she got out of that? LOL

(Well, unless she has the same mind set.)

Anybody agree?

(Sorry for insinuated cursing, but it was the only word that would fit. Trust me, I tried to find others.)

And besides... Today girls grow, at an emotional level, slower than boys... and, for them, a boyfriend usually does means on someone they can nag and tell the friend they have them...

As I already said, I was kinda ready to commit myself to her for the next few months or even years, but... She is too much busy recieving compliments to have a commitment... And apperently also talking to me...

The old line that said that girls grow up faster than boys is now a lie... most of them are now daddys girls, and have everything they want...

I hate spoilt people. Good for cannon fodder though.
And take it from me, never go out with a spoiled girl/boy/both, they then start expecting you to start spoiling them and only like you for your money.

Not true here, JPB. The girls 'have stuff happen' earlier.

Earthdeath wrote:I hate spoilt people. Good for cannon fodder though.
And take it from me, never go out with a spoiled girl/boy/both, they then start expecting you to start spoiling them and only like you for your money.

Are you sure you picked up the right word? "like you for your money"?

That wouldn't be like you... that would be liking your wallet...

Ans also usually spoiled people give so many importance to their problems, when what makes them a problem is to give importance to them...

Shemuel wrote:Not true here, JPB. The girls 'have stuff happen' earlier.

True... But in most cases, their minds get stucked somewhere between the 13 and 15 years old... Until they arrive 18 or older, were they wake up to life...

I agree completely with that 2nd statement.

With younger people in general, the teen years are simply a hormonal haze. And when given the relationship blunt, they only become more stupid.

After the emotional high runs off, they begin to see the more important things in life. (I'm starting to get personal experience in that)

Darkjedi wrote:I agree completely with that 2nd statement.

With younger people in general, the teen years are simply a hormonal haze. And when given the relationship blunt, they only become more stupid.

After the emotional high runs off, they begin to see the more important things in life. (I'm starting to get personal experience in that)

Also, and it is that age where their breasts and hips start to develop and start to be noticed... And also when we, guys, start having interest in them... That make us start complimenting them, they get all "I'm so important" and then they get stuck in hearing compliments and don't want to start having a true relationship because that will reduce the amont of atention they get (Once guys are more carefull with girls who have BF's)... And when they get into one, due to interest, if they find someone "more interesting", they easily drop their BF's to chase their new "pretty boy"...

That's what I learn by hanging out with older people... My older and mature friends helped me facing rejection faster than usually...

I always found the concept of relationships weird. I think people (at least) appear more mature here in that manner. Like I know one relationship that started in grade 8 and is still going and they always had the intention on getting married. I think those that realize that the purpose they get into a relationship is so that they can be with that person for their whole life, do much better than those that just strike up a cheap relationship that lasts 6 months at best.

JPB18 wrote:

Darkjedi wrote:I agree completely with that 2nd statement.

With younger people in general, the teen years are simply a hormonal haze. And when given the relationship blunt, they only become more stupid.

After the emotional high runs off, they begin to see the more important things in life. (I'm starting to get personal experience in that)

Also, and it is that age where their breasts and hips start to develop and start to be noticed... And also when we, guys, start having interest in them... That make us start complimenting them, they get all "I'm so important" and then they get stuck in hearing compliments and don't want to start having a true relationship because that will reduce the amont of atention they get (Once guys are more carefull with girls who have BF's)... And when they get into one, due to interest, if they find someone "more interesting", they easily drop their BF's to chase their new "pretty boy"...

That's what I learn by hanging out with older people... My older and mature friends helped me facing rejection faster than usually...

Why are all girls addicted to attention? I mean, yes, i guess it's instincts from back when they had to get the attention of the best male in the tribe, but shouldn't we be able to resist instincts?

By the way, it's normally a bad idea to compliment them on their appearance, it makes you look shallow and probably makes her think you only want her for her appearance. It's a better idea to go for her personality. You'd have to actually care about her personality first though... Most guys don't seem to do that. At least most guys i know.

@DW Most of the time, you'll have to go through many relationships before you find someone you want to spend your life with. It's not cheap because they're not planning to get married. I'm not denying that alot of people go for cheap relationships though... Lots of people get into relationships just for some daily/weeky humping.

Thingy wrote:By the way, it's normally a bad idea to compliment them on their appearance, it makes you look shallow and probably makes her think you only want her for her appearance. It's a better idea to go for her personality. You'd have to actually care about her personality first though... Most guys don't seem to do that. At least most guys i know.

I know that... In fact, I never said she was pretty... Only once, in the first day I knew her... And it was more like because they were discussing if she was or not pretty... Since then, I got to know her better and I just whispered in her ear when I had to say some compliment. But I think she only liked the attention I used to gave her... When I whispered "Amo-te" ("Love You", in english): Worst thing I could have done... It seems she doesn't want a relationship, because of what I already said (Less attention and stuff)...

After all... my best friend already warned me about that... But I kinda ignored him... Now I must acknowledge him...

"Amo-te"? And I thought te quiero sounded good. LOL

@ Thingy

Dead on. Well, unless your chick is really shallow.

Darkwing wrote:I always found the concept of relationships weird. I think people (at least) appear more mature here in that manner. Like I know one relationship that started in grade 8 and is still going and they always had the intention on getting married. I think those that realize that the purpose they get into a relationship is so that they can be with that person for their whole life, do much better than those that just strike up a cheap relationship that lasts 6 months at best.

I agree. But you'd be surprised how many people don't understand that.

Here, six months is quite a fairly long relationship for our age.

Darkjedi wrote:"Amo-te"? And I thought te quiero sounded good. LOL

Well... "te quiero" means in portuguese "Quero-te" which in english means "I want you", so... Spanish people do use the same word as us, just say: "Te Amo"...

Oh yeah, I guess I didn't think about that.

Wait, so Portuguese is like reverse Spanish now? LOL

Not that... there's only a few situations where that happens... For example "Piña" in Spanish is "Ananás" in Portuguese, which means "Pineaple" in English....

It's just... most "Romantic" words come from Latin language... and... you know the outcome...

It's all down to Latin. Don't kid yourself.

I do believe that at least the word "Amor" (love) comes from latin... I mean... it doesn't start with Al as in all muslim words we still have...

Well, the most important thing that the muslims did to the iberian languages is adding the adjective to every Latin word there was, which is a lot. Besides that, if you know latin, you can read spanish. portuguese is harder because the language has altered much more over the years.

me naam is m wrote:Well, the most important thing that the muslims did to the iberian languages is adding the adjective to every Latin word there was, which is a lot. Besides that, if you know latin, you can read spanish. portuguese is harder because the language has altered much more over the years.

Pretty much...

Well... What I saw today was kinda funny...

My best friend, turned to me and said: "I think I'm going to call her a liar...", which I replied "Who, and why?"... "Cause, for someone who has just said it wasn't interested in you, seems to be pretty interested in your but..." I looked back and caugh her looking at me... She (my best friend), turned to me and said... "Don't give her attention for a while... Let's see if she grows up a little..."


I mean... What tha? I know I already spoke about the "don't wanna a compromise" thingy, but... This is so weird...

JAY Teen angst. Man, when I grow old I will wonder what I've missed all that time.

Shemuel wrote:

Do not want, what?

I kinda found it funny... My reply to Inês was: "Yeah... I will let her suffer a bit... I'm really enjoying this part..."

I mean... it's like she rejects me, but she's now manifestating interest? It's so confuse that amuses me! XD

It was in response to MNIM about teen angst

Shemuel wrote:It was in response to MNIM about teen angst

Yeah... He really won't want to remember that part...

The problem is that I have never experienced teen angst, (yet) so there's nothing to remember.

me naam is m wrote:The problem is that I have never softer teen angst, (yet) so there's nothing to remember.

Lucky guy... That's all I've to say to you...

So... never broke up with anyone or never get interested by anyone?

Well, I have just never seen a girl of which I thought "Woah, I wanna be with that girl for the rest of my life."

So I didn't really bother. *shrugs*

mmm, my sentiment exactly, except i have more to it than that as you all are no doubt aware

me naam is m wrote:Well, I have just never seen a girl of which I thought "Woah, I wanna be with that girl for the rest of my life."

So I didn't really bother. *shrugs*

Well... the last girls I didn't had that feeling... It was just: "I'm ready for a compromise... If you can hold it for the rest of my life is ok... If you can't, is also ok..."

well, imagine you got married under a compromise, that wouldn't have been fun to live with

I'm too cold for proper angst, luckily.

Shemuel wrote:I'm too cold for proper angst, luckily.

I seem to have the same situation whereas angst is concerned.